What does complaining do?

There are lots of people in my life that have low self-esteem because of their weight. For example I have a close friend who always talks about her body. It's the number one topic in all of her conversations, which means that it must be on her mind all of the time. So anyway, this friend of mine. She complains that she eats too much, and that she's fat etc. typical things you would here out of a girls mouth. So one time she asked me and another one of my friends to help her eat healthier, and as good friends we accepted and began suggesting her healthier options instead of what she was eating. We also told, and showed her how to eat slower (which she did not do at all) But the problem is she wouldn't listen, and she'd even try to make us seem like the bad people that were making her eat less of her high-fat diet. So she wouldn't even try, she just wanted us to try for her, do the work for her. And in the end she just made our friendship wierd and continued to complain about her body.

Another example could be my cousin. I live with him and he's slightly overwieght. He gets teased about his weight at his school (which btw, never do that to someone, it hurts) So anyway, I ask him to go for runs with me all of the time, and he often makes up excuses to get out of them. His biggest excuse is that he doesn't have his running shoes (which is good enough, b/c running shoes are essential) but I've been afterschool with him before and continuously reminded him to get his running shoes. He just ends up making another excuse and leaves. But whenever I go for walks with him all he does is complain about his body, which really annoys be because he could be spending that time and energy jogging or excersising in some way and improving his health.

So the entire point of this ranting blog? My friend and cousin are spending all of their time and energy complaining about thier body which could be used to change their body and attitude for the better. So everyone, if you know a complainer, tell them they complain, because they'll just continue doing it until a gap in your relationship forms.

Complaining does nothing.